Blended family


Ever hear the term blended family? Me either until last year. 

Chloe is my daughter who I had from a previous relationship. I had my eyes set on marrying that male because that was the ‘right’ thing to do. I was determined to beat the odds of teenage pregnancy. I wanted to be the couple that made I through that and ended up long time lovers. My daughter has her dad’s last name because at the time I thought, why not? That way we’ll all have the same last name one day. 

I am one of the most determined people you will meet. If I want something I am going to give 110% to get it. I was determined to make that relationship work. 

Well.... it wasn’t meant to be. God had other plans for my life. 

That relationship ended and I was content at 18 being single and living with my mom. I was okay with it just being me and Chloe and not finding a partner in life. I was sincerely happy - but stressed. I was a strict mama who poured her blood sweat and tears to provide for her baby. I was exhausted. 

Then I met this man and woah. My world changed. I realized I wanted a partner in life and I wanted it to be him. 

One month in I decided this was the man I wanted as a partner and who I wanted to marry. 

Here we are nearly 5 years later. A blended family, pregnant with our rainbow baby, home schooling a first grader, working from home and surviving a pandemic. 

Don’t settle because something seems/feels like the “right” thing to do. Don’t count yourself out for something you see, but don’t think you deserve. 

YOU deserve the world. Don’t shut a door that you haven’t opened yet. A blended family, or not. It may just be what you need. 

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